He heard what you said. He's just not interested in hearing it at the
moment. Don't try to give your man instructions or talk about your
feelings when he's watching TV (especially sports), eating, reading,
or has just come home from work. He will only be half listening. His
mind is on other things like: will his team win, his
day at work, how hungry he is, etc. He can only pay attention to one
thing at a time. If he lets you think that he is giving you his full
attention, and then you will want to talk to him at these
inappropriate moments all the time. If he gives you a detailed
response, you'll just continue to talk. If he completely ignores you,
you'll get mad. If he pretends that he is listening, you will be
content and walk away.
2. He Does Look at Other Women.
Not because he wants to cheat, but because men are visually
stimulated. Getting mad at him for looking is just going to make him
sneak a peek. Hey, it's just a passing glance. It's not like we don't
check guys out too!
3. He Needs Time Away From You.
Men need time to reflect, socialize and just get away from it all.
Men like the time to regroup. It doesn't mean that they don't want to
be with us, it is just an escape to appreciate what they have at home.
So lighten up, while he's out of the house, take the kids out or get a
babysitter and go something you enjoy.
4. He Doesn't Feel Like Being Bothered Sometimes
You've probably asked him to do something several times, but yet he
still doesn't do it in a timely manner. In frustration, you do it
yourself. What is he thinking, "Thank Goodness!" Men do things at
their own pace. You can ask your man to take out the trash and 3 hours
later, it's still there. Technically, he still has time to take out
the trash. In his mind, the trash isn't going anywhere anytime soon,
and if you do it yourself, that just makes it better for him.
5. He Really Enjoys Gossip
If your man overhears you gossiping on the phone, he'll probably
shake his head in disapproval. However, if he talks about Joe and
Margaret, his co workers who are having an affair, it's not gossip.
Actually men enjoy to gossip. They just have a different name for it
"Commenting."
6. Yes, He Was Thinking About Sex
Your man has a far away look in his eyes. He seems distant. He was
thinking about sex. He can't help it, he thinks about it several times
a day. Wouldn't you prefer that he thinks about it several times a day
rather than having sex several times a day?
7. When His Voice Goes High, or He Answers a Question With the Same
Question, He's Thinking of a Lie.
If you ask your man, "What You'd Do Today?' and he replies
"What I'd Do Today?" he's probably thinking of lie. It doesn't mean
that he did something inappropriate, just something you
wouldn't approve of. Maybe, he left work early to hang out with the
guys. If he told you this, you'd be upset because you had a long day
at work or at home with the kids. The problem is he was having too
much fun to think about if you would ask him that question, so he
didn't plan a lie beforehand.
8. Nothing is Wrong, So Stop Asking Him
Admit it, you see your man sitting quietly and you naturally assume
something is wrong or has happened. So you ask, "What's wrong?"
and he replies, "Nothing, I'm just thinking." Well, this answer
doesn't satisfy you, so you ask again throughout the day, which leads
to his frustration. Men reflect too! He was probably thinking
about how he wants to change careers, if you are satisfied and happy
with him, how he can make more money, how he doesn't want to grow
old and fat, or how he would really like to buy that sports car. Ask
him once, and then leave it alone. If you really sense something is
wrong, give him some time and talk to him when you both feel like
talking.
9. Most Men are Conquerors and Most Women are Venters
You just told him about your horrible experience at work. You want him
to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts
about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You wanted to share
your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the
problem. Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about
being in touch with their feelings when there's a conflict. You want
to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He can't
relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps
you to plan a solution.
10. He Wants to Feel Successful.
A man needs to feel he has accomlished something in life, and often
times that accomplishment is found in their jobs or careers. Men don't
like to feel conflicted between work and quality time with their
families. To men, if they are working hard to earn money, this will
improve the quality of their family's life.
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